How to Deal with Homesickness

Have you ever moved away or went somewhere for a long or short time and started missing home? Well, if you red my last blog post, you would know I had a really bad case of homesickness. What is homesickness you ask? Homesickness is caused by being away from home and having symptoms of anxiousness and depression. Other symptoms can include withdrawing and a difficulty focusing. These feelings can come in waves or can be a constant for a long period of time. Who can homesickness affect? Homesickness can affect anyone who is gone away from home for a long or even short period of time. Some examples include travelers, college students, military personnel and people who move away from home.

How can you deal with it? Below I will list many ways in which I have personally dealt with my own homesickness. All of these have been ways I have used since moving to a new place and the many trips I have taken. Through personal experience I have learned many of my own ways to overcome and cope with home sickness. Some of these have been ways other people have taught me how to cope.

Top 15 Ways to Deal With Homesickness:

1.) Talk with family

Talking with family back home or wherever they may be can help calm the feelings you are having. I constantly stayed in touch with my mom because she is a very important part of my life. Whenever I would talk to her I would feel less anxious and depressed.

2.) Do fun things

Doing fun things keeps your mind off of the feelings you are having. Sometimes it can fix the feeling for a long time, while others can be a short amount of time.

3.) Think positively

Thinking positively is one of the biggest ways I learned to cope. Instead of thinking, “I’m never going to go home again” think “I will get back home again soon. Thinking positively completely changes your outlook on life.

4.) Talk to someone

You always have someone to talk to, as you are never alone. Whether they are just a phone call, text, Skype call, Facebook message or whatever their preferred method of contact is there is always someone. Do not be afraid to reach out.

5.) Have pictures around of home

I always have pictures or keepsakes lying around that make me feel at home. Most pictures that I have around are of family. The pictures make me feel more at peace and at home.

6.) Don’t dwell on the past

You life is always going to be constantly changing. Sitting and dwelling on the past will make you feel more depressed and/or anxious. This also comes back to thinking positively.

7.) Create new traditions

As you get older, traditions change or disappear. Creating new traditions can help you transition into your own new life. They can also help you feel more comfortable in your new place. You can continue these traditions for as long as you like, after all they are traditions.

8.) Limit conversations back home

Earlier I stated calling home often, but for some limiting conversations back home can help. I had to limit myself for awhile talking to family because it was hurting me instead of helping talking to everyone but my mother. Before you make a decision on limiting yourself make sure you know which one will be better for you.

9.) Have pets

Having a pet was and is my favorite way to deal with my anxiety and depression. Pets love you unconditionally and are always willing to lend a crying shoulder or a good laugh when you need one.

10.) Explore your new surroundings

Exploring your surroundings can be anything from talking a walk, going to a new place to eat, finding out where your favorite stores are located and etc. This can help you feel more at peace and possibly make you feel at home.

11.) Repetition

Repetition of your new traditions and schedule will help you to overcome your feelings. They might even help you to become comfortable in your new setting.

12.) Don’t give yourself a hard time

Understand that your feelings are real and valid. There are other people that have experienced the feelings that you are going through. Do not beat yourself up over your hard, depressed or anxious feelings.

13.) Ask for help

Understand that it is okay to ask for help when you need it. Even though people might not understand, there are always going to be people around to lend a listening ear. Understand your feelings are valid and should be heard.

14.) Always have something to count down

When I have something to look forward to this gives me a positive frame of mind. Even if it is a whole year away, it is still something good to think about. You can always install a countdown app to help you count down the days.

15.) Plan a trip back home

This is where I have become truly thankful for planes, trains and automobiles. There is always a way to go home and see your family, friends and loved ones. Although it may cost money, that money will be worth the trip home. I try to go home at least twice a year or have someone come see me. Planning a trip back home always eases my mind and gives me something to look forward to.

As you can see there are many ways to learn to cope and overcome your home sickness. I have been in North Carolina for over a year and it is finally starting to feel like home. Although I have not made many friends, I have started to become more comfortable in this new place. New surroundings are never easy to adjust to. When I first moved here it took all my might to adjust to this new place to live. It also took a lot for me to deal with and cope to a new place of living. I had a thought to end my life is how bad my home sickness got. If you ever get that low or even before then you should call the suicide prevention hotline. Their number in the USA is 1-800-273-8255 or they have a way you can online chat. There is always someone to talk 24/7 to help you with your feelings. Depression and anxiety are real and valid feelings, so please make sure you talk to someone. Many people will also try to do bad things to get out of what they are doing to be sent home or get to leave early. Make sure the ways you cope with home sickness are not ways that get you in trouble in any way.

Once I identified my feelings of homesickness, I began to understand the many ways I could deal with it. I also started to understand that I was not alone in experiencing these feelings. People everywhere experience these feelings quite often, so you are never alone. These feelings are not always easy to get over but they are manageable. What are some of the ways you have dealt with home sickness? Let me know in the comments below.

Stay tuned for a new piece in the hometown series! See you soon!

Xoxo,

Ariel

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106 comments
  1. This is a great post for people at all sorts of different stages in life. The closest I ever was to homesick is when I did my study abroad, and that was as much the language/culture shock as anything – but your tips are great whether for a young adult setting out, someone heading away to college, or even a kid off to sleep-away camp for the first time. Nice post!

    1. Thank you very much! I appreciate all of your kind words! I tried to make it appealing to all. That sounds like a tough experience, definitely jealous you studied abroad. I always wanted l do that. I hope you went somewhere beautiful!

  2. Great post and great tips!

    1. Thank you very much.

  3. Your post is really helpful. These tips are great and very helpful. I used similar tips when I was dealing with my homesickness at Hong Kong. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Thank you for saying my post is helpful, that means a lot to me. I hope you had a wonderful time in Hong Kong besides the homesickness. You are welcome, thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it.

  4. These are some great tips. I definitely had this in college and ending up moving closer towards my parents who moved out of state.

    1. Thank you for your kind words. Home sickness is definitely not easy. I hope you moving closer helped but you were still able to have the best college experience. Thank you for sharing your story, I really appreciate it.

  5. A great list for those of us that live further from our family than we’d like.

    1. Thank you very much. I really appreciate that.

  6. I had quite the time when I first got married and moved over several states away. I had no family in the state where my husband was from. I had no friends. It was very difficult. I’m glad there are posts like this one that help people get past such feelings.

    1. It is definitely a struggle, I hope things got easier for you! Changes are definitely never easy especially when you have no one around. Thank you for sharing your story and for commenting, I really appreciate it!

  7. These are all wonderful tips and you have great insight to what can help anyone suffering from homesickness. I think having pets is a fabulous idea because they can be so emotionally calming…

    1. Thank you very much, I really appreciate that. I hope it does help people who are or will suffer from homesickness.

  8. Homesickness is so hard to deal with, especially when you have no control over communications and visitation. I think #4 talking to someone was what helped me the most. When I moved away from my immediate family to my husband duty station, ass soon as we left all I wanted as to run back home. I had to find a way to get it out, to make this new place a place I didn’t want it to be home. I slowly started to make friends, while the homesickness was still there, it did help to curb it.

    1. Homesickness definitely is, #4 was definitely what helped me as well. I bet that was hard but I’m glad it is better for you and you made friends! Thank you for sharing your story and for commenting. I really appreciate it.

  9. When I moved away from home for university, I found quickly that the things you mention above were the same ones that I had to do in order to cope with my constant homesickness.

    1. That’s good that you could find things that work for you, it’s always important to do so! Thank you for sharing your story and for commenting, I really appreciate it.

  10. I dealt with my homesickness by keeping familiar things around while talking about my feelings with someone close to my heart. And most of all, I keep a journal and get plenty of exercise.

    1. I love keeping familiar things around, thank you for sharing what you did and for commenting. I love your part about journaling.

  11. Homesickness is a real thing. I deal with it every day. Creating new traditions is a great idea. I think that will be very helpful especially with the holidays.

    1. It definitely is, some people are skeptical of it. I hope this will be helpful for around the holidays. Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it.

  12. These are some great tips. The army uses animals to help soldiers cope with homesickness. It really does help!

    1. That is so neat! I actually did not know they used animals to help soldiers cope with homesickness. Thank you for telling me that and for your comment. I really appreciate it.

  13. These are great tips, I had homesickness when I loved abroad although I was so unhappy with other aspects of my life so it seemed to triple it and I also couldn’t talk to people there about it. Your advice about pets, repetition and keeping busy are really good. Also I am glad you added the suicide prevention information on the bottom, it is always good to raise awareness and to let others know things can be better <3

    1. Thank you very much! I appreciate you sharing your story as well. Thank you for the great feedback, I really appreciate it.

  14. Being a college student, I’ve dealt with homesickness and I still do (4th year). It can be a bit embarrassing but there’s nothing wrong with it. My second year of college I ended up adopting a puppy to give me some comfort. Best decision ever! I love these other tips you have given.

    1. I definitely get it. I’m glad you got to adopt a puppy and it helped! Thanks for sharing your story and for the great feedback! I really appreciate it.

  15. Wow, these are good tips. Another good idea is to join a social group that helps you make new friends. I can be very introverted, so I put myself in positions where I have to interact with other people. It really helps me get out of my own way and let me know I’m not alone in the world.

    1. That is definitely a great tip! I didn’t think about that. Thank you for the tip and the great comment, I really appreciate it!

  16. This article had some great points. I particularly liked the one about asking for help. I tend to be so stubborn at times and forget the importance to ask for help.

    1. Thank you! I definitely think asking for help is definitely a good thing. I’m stubborn to so I understand it. Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it.

  17. These are all really great tips. Skyping with my loved ones really helped me while I lived abroad. I also took some of my favourite little nicknacks with me 🙂

    1. I wish my mom knew how to skype, that would solve a lot of issues haha. But thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it.

  18. This is a great list of ideas to cope with homesickness. I had this when I first went away to college across the country. It was tough. I did a lot of what you suggested actually – even owned a pet. Made all the difference. And coming home often helped a lot because the time between trips were a lot shorter, so the homesickness would become less and less with every year.

    1. I bet it was tough. Thank you for sharing your story! I really appreciate that. I’m glad you owned and pet and it helped! Thank you for your comment, I appreciate it.

  19. I don’t think I have ever experienced home sickness, and I have been away from my country for 5 years. I think that you should indeed enjoy the things you have and remember that life changes all the time. Dwelling on the past only makes is harder to move on.

    1. That is a great thing you have never experienced it! Thank you for your comment and feedback, I appreciate it.

  20. This is something that definitely effected me when i was travelling. I think its such a great subject to address. Thank you

    1. It is hard not to be affected by it. You are welcome, thank you for your comment. I really appreciate it. 😊

  21. I’ve moved many times in my life. Luckily, I’m always blessed with dealing well with it. I know others who aren’t so lucky. I love that you included the number for the suicide prevention hotline. So important!

    1. I am glad to hear you deal well with it! Thank you! I thought it would be good to add it in, many people do not handle it well. At least it is a line to reach out to if things are not going good and you are having a hard time. Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it.

  22. I relate to this post so much after I moved to Atlanta from Chicago! I missed home so much and it caused a bunch of personal issues. But these tips are great for someone who just left their hometown.

    1. Moves are so hard but time can definitely heal all of that, I believe. That’s amazing you moved from Atlanta to Chicago. Definitely two totally different places! Thank you for commenting and sharing your story! I really appreciate it.

  23. Talking to someone and thinking positively are two awesome tips. Overall a really good post. Thanks for sharing.

    1. I think they are great and helpful things for people who are dealing with homesickness. I really appreciate your feedback and comment. You are welcome, thank you for commenting.

  24. Being separated from the family is very difficult and we are accustomed to being with them every day. and Homesickness is one who needs to fight of every parents who needs to work into the distance for the needs of their families.

    1. It definitely is! Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it.

  25. Homesickness is definitely a real thing. My husband and I moved from Florida to Texas 3 years ago and I miss living in Florida so much! I want to move back, but the time just isn’t right for us. All of my family is in South Florida, and I can never decide if talking to them often helps or makes it worse. Sometimes it helps because I feel like I am still connected, but other times it makes it worse because I realize what I am missing out on (for example I called my mom last night and she and my dad were out to eat with my sister and her family). It’s not easy, but it’s also important to spread your wings and try something new.

    1. It really is real! So many people choose to believe it is not, which amazes me. Thank you for sharing your story! It definitely is not easy and feeling left out or missing out on things makes it tough. Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it!

  26. Lots of great advice here, I think you’ve got such a wide array of tips there’s bound to be something in there for everyone. I know calls home were the biggest ones for me!

    1. Thank you! I really appreciate that feedback. Calling home definitely helps! My mom and I speak every Tuesday and knowing she will call then gives me something to look forward to. Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it.

  27. These are great tips for anyone combating home sickness. I find what works best for me is to keep my mind occupied, get out, and do something. It not only helps me forget the homesickness, it provides positive associations with where I am. Best of luck.

    1. Thank you! Keeping my mind occupied definitely helps! I will agree there! Thank you for your comment and sharing your tip! I really appreciate that!

  28. This is a really great post and I’m sure this will help out a lot of people, especially those that have moved away.

    1. Thank you for your feedback! I hope it helps and touches someone.

  29. I have never dealt with home sickness, but I know many people who have. I definitely agree that phone conversations and creating new traditions really help!

    1. I am glad you have not experienced it. Phone conversations and new traditions definitely are two of my favorites! Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it!

  30. I have stayed alone for so many years that the feeling of being homesick is very rare but i do keep a lot of photographs of my loved ones and have created a photo wall as well..

    1. That is good that it is rare! I love photographs for that very reason! Thank you for sharing your tip that helps you. I really appreciate that and your comment.

  31. This is so timely. This snow in NC has me missing Florida so much and I’m currently planning a trip home. I don’t think NC will ever feel like home to me but I’m glad you’re beginning to adjust

    1. You moved to North Carolina as well! That’s amazing, I did as well. North Carolina has never 100% felt like home because I’m from Kansas. It’s all I ever known and it will always be home. But I am loving my new life as it is a life I created all on my own. Thank you for your comment and sharing your story.

  32. Making sure that you have things to occupy you is so important. If you just dwell on how bad it makes you feel, it will be worse.

    1. I definitely agree with that! Keeping your mind busy makes things a lot easier. Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it!

  33. Great post. I like your thoughts on not dwelling on it and creating new memories. When we moved I told my kiddos to make new memories where we moved to so it felt like home

    1. Dwelling on it made the homesickness way worse. So creating new memories made me start having special attachments to particular places. Thank you for your comment and sharing your tip! Creating memories definitely makes it so much better and that much more special.

  34. You’ve given some great tips here! Thank you for sharing this post. It is something I struggle with when I travel for business.

    1. Thank you! You are welcome, thank you for your comment. I really appreciate it. I hope these tips help!

  35. When we moved overseas I truly missed my family. Your tips really resonated with me.

    1. Thank you for your comment and feedback, I really appreciate it!

  36. I did feel homesick when I moved to Europe!! The first year it was really terrible, even the salt and the sugar tasted differently for me. I missed averyone and everything. But 14 years later I can say THIS is my home now, and if anything, I miss MY home even when I go back to visiting my parents in my country of origin, I’m so glad to be back “home” in Europe in the end. Here is where I founded MY own family, where my children attend school and where I have my job and my friends, so I think everything you noted is quite correct and very good tips. I would say the most you need is TIME. Homesickness is a normal thing, but time cures everything.

    1. That’s so amazing that eventually it was good and that is your home! It’s amazing how moving can have a total change on you. Thank you for sharing your story and your tip! I really appreciate it. I whole heartedly agree that time cures everything!

  37. I’ve dealt with this before when I was traveling. So, it’s really important to stay connected with your family.

    1. I think so as well. Family is always super helpful! Thank you for your comment. I really appreciate it!

  38. Even as a fully grown adults with a husband and kids of my own, I get homesick sometimes. Regular trips home whenever we can sure help. And I speak to my mum everyday on the phone.

    1. I completely agree with everything you said. I count down the days to when I get to see my mom again. Adults still need their parents. Thank you for sharing your story and commenting, I really appreciate it.

  39. Homesickness is the enemy to all of OFW! Because they work too far without their family. Like my mom, She’s been away with us for 4years and we really miss her a lot.

    1. It really is an enemy, I wish I could take my whole life with me whenever I travel. That would make it easier. Thank you for sharing and commenting. I know it’s hard to miss your mom, I miss mine every day. I countdown the days till I can see her again.

  40. These are some great tips. I definitely get Homesick quickly when I am away. Taking to my family does help a lot.

    1. Thank you very much, I appreciate that. I love talking to my family, definitely helps so much.

  41. An excellent post about homesickness that everyone experiences at one time or another – including me!

    1. Thank you! I really appreciate the feedback, means a lot to me.

  42. Thanks for sharing – great tips! I went through a rough patch when we were doing some long term travel a few years back. For me, the best way to help was by “limiting conversations back home” – if I didn’t constantly hear about all the weddings, baby showers, and other celebrations I was missing back home – it was easier to deal with being gone.

    1. I definitely understand how it was helpful, that was the same for me in a particular way. It’s hard missing out, makes you more homesick. Thank you for sharing your story and commenting. I really appreciate it!

  43. When I was living in Singapore, I got a little homesick during my first week. I wish I was able to have a pet cuz that would have really helped 🙂 Some really great suggestions in there!

    1. The pets definitely really help! Thank you for sharing your story and commenting, I really appreciate it!

  44. I recently wrote a post regarding homesickness as a friend of mine became depressed because of it. It’s definitely something difficult to deal with and some of the time it can consume you. Thanks for bringing awareness to this and providing tips and suggestions on how to deal with it. You can check out my post here – https://helloyeshi.wordpress.com/2018/01/08/homesickness/

    1. I will definitely check it out, thank you for sharing and commenting! I really appreciate it.

  45. Thse tips are very good. I especially like the idea of having pictures around. I’m very sentimental.

    1. Thank you very much, I really appreciate that. I’m a sentimental person too, I wish I could frame every picture I own (which is a lot!)

  46. These are some amazing tips! quite helpful for someone like me who stays away from home and miss it a bit too much

    1. I definitely get how you feel! I hope these help you. Thank you for commenting and sharing! I really appreciate it!

  47. This was some great advice. Homesickness can be hard to deal with and especially for some people who experience it more often than others!

    1. This is definitely so true! Thank you for your wonderful feedback, I really appreciate it.

  48. I’ve never experienced homesickness, but these all sound like great tips for dealing with the emotions that one experiences. Thanks so much for sharing as I know it will help someone and might come in handy for me in the future. 🙂

    1. You are welcome! Thank you for commenting. I really appreciate it.

  49. This is a very important topic to deal with. I’ve never been homesick, I get totally detached when travelling. Before there were mobiles, I didn’t even have pictures with me. Therefore I am not sure if calling home or looking at pictures or planning a trip home wouldn’t even increase a possible homesickness. For me, detachment helps.

    1. This is an excellent point. I had to detach myself from some family/friends. Each person is different, as why I gave a variety of ways to help with homesickness. Thank you for your feedback and your way of dealing! I really appreciate it.

  50. Thank you for sharing these tips. Homesickness can be quite hard to deal with, so I am sure this post will be helpful to many.

    1. You are welcome, thank you. It is quite hard, but I hope this helps those that are going through it. Thank you for your wonderful comment.

  51. These are some great tips! When I first started my trip I would feel homesick occasionally but now, even though I miss my friends and family, I’m rarely if ever homesick. For anyone dealing with this I feel you have some great advice for getting through it.

    1. Thank you very much! I appreciate the great feedback and for sharing your story.

  52. Some really great and valid points here. The thing with homesickness it can hit people at anytime, I’ve met people who have felt it after only days of traveling, I’ve met others it’s taken months. It’s funny I traveled for 6 years straight and never really got that bad of a case of homesickness – Well that is until coming to the end. I was in South America, and it started to hit me, I was fed up and burnt out and for the first time I truly missed home. So much so that I cut the trip short and went home (but I needed to come home to have a break) I don’t think in all my 6 years of traveling non-stop that I talked to my family as much as I did during my last few weeks.

    1. I definitely agree with everything you said. Thank you for sharing your story. I am jealous you traveled for 6 years straight! That sounds amazing! Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it.

  53. Homesickness isn’t cured quite easily, but for me I think it’s managed, not defeated. That’s where the advice such as repetition and “don’t give yourself a hard time” come into play.

    1. It definitely is not. But you are correct, thank you for your comment. I appreciate it.

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