Tales of an Introverted Traveler

For as long as I can remember people have classified me as an introvert. At first I did not quite know what the word introvert meant, which would upset me (sensitive girl right here!). As I grew older I started to understand that I was what they said. I have always been a good listener, quiet, shy, reserved and I like to be alone more than I like to be with people. Being alone is how I recharge in my life. I felt I truly met the definition of what one may call an introvert. Do not get me wrong, I love to have friends and I love to talk but once I have talked enough to where I feel drained I shut down. Talking completely wears me out and makes me tired after awhile. I then become that awkward, shy, reserved and quiet person that would rather listen than talk. In some instances, this is seems perfectly okay and acceptable. The only time I would actually get in trouble for not talking was in college during discussions. I would bite my tongue to listen to others and then get ready to throw in my opinion. Well the problem with waiting too long was that by the time I was ready to talk, people had started a completely different discussion about a topic. This would turn into a vicious cycle that eventually I knew I had to take care of but had no idea how. I even had a professor worry that I would be a good candidate for the Master’s program that I would be applying for because of my introverted disposition. This broke my heart because I wanted to get into that program with all my heart.
When I began traveling, locals anywhere I went or even other fellow travelers would attempt to talk to me. I would be cordial, but I would have a hard time keeping up with conversations or felt it was best to smile and say hi. I even have had some ask me if I was stuck up, deaf or mute. I am none of the above, but I do see how I could be perceived as that. In the inner workings of my mind I think of a lot of things I could say but I seem to never say them. I am all for making friends but generally struggle to start a conversation with anyone, even my own family.
One year my husband and I went on our first cruise. We were shown to a table where we would sit with 8 to 9 other people. If that is not an intimidating statement to an introvert, I do not know what is. The first 3 people to sit down were a mother, father and daughter from Miami, Florida. My husband and the father instantly started talking and getting to know one another. I sat there and looked around, while eating (let’s be honest and say stuffing my face) with some bread. Then a daughter, mother, father and two sisters to the mother sat down from different parts of the east coast. When we went around the table sharing names, I messed my name up and instantly felt judged (even though I was not judged). Each night the entire table grew to talk to one another and eventually I opened up and started talking. I wanted to become friends with the daughter of the first family because we had a lot in common, but I did not know how. My introvert disposition holds me back from doing a lot when it comes to new people. Once the walls are broke down, I am usually easy going, engaged and my typical fun loving self.
By the end of the cruise, the daughter of the first family and I were good friends. We are now best friends and talk every day, I was even a part of her wedding recently. I write letters back and forth with daughter in the other family. Travel to me is about exploring and see new places. Looking forward to meeting new people is the last thing on my mind. While I would love to meet new people from all over, it is not the first thing on my mind. I just simply lack the outgoing piece that many people have. I am thankful for all of my traveling experiences, but that cruise was the one I am the most thankful for.
Tomorrow I have another guest blogger on the blog. She is going to speak about her experience as an extroverted traveler and how traveling makes her the best person she can be. Next week I will finally showcase accepting the blogger recognition award and tell you about the lovely state of Colorado. Stay tuned, see you soon.

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  1. Love this series! So great to hear from so many different personalities and point of views!

    1. Thank you! I am glad you are enjoying it! It was definitely fun to write and publish. 😊

  2. Love how travelling pushes our inner self to talk to strangers and consequently find good friends in them!

    1. That is so true! Traveling makes me the best me that I can possibly be.

  3. This is awesome.Thanks for sharing your views and its great to read through your perspective.

    1. Thank you so much! Thank you for reading, I really appreciate it!

  4. I love how the cruise really made you open up! I just went on my first one last month and felt the same way. Everyone was so friendly and non-judgemental. It’s amazing who you can meet when you let your walls down!

    1. That is definitely all true! That’s why cruising is one of my favorite ways to travel! 😊 So glad it did the same for you!

  5. Beautiful post with emotional touch. Enjoyed your experience greatly. Thanks for sharing.

  6. I could relate to this so much! I’m introverted as well and often have to push myself to be a bit more social, traveling has a way of forcing us out of our comfort zones which can be a good thing. Great article

    1. It’s definitely hard to push our introvert selves to be more social. I love traveling for this reason! It makes me a much better version of myself.

  7. Really well written post here, I can somewhat relate to it. I have a funny personality in the sense that I feel I can be be quite social at times but other times I need to be alone, and when I mean alone I mean shut off from everybody else. I feel I’ve become more of an introvert the older I’ve got and more so since I returned home from traveling for 6 years straight. I travel as a solo traveler but I’m hardly ever alone as like to make friends, however when I’m moving from one place to another i like to travel alone. Yes I’m weirdo like that:D

    1. Thank you very much. I definitely understand what you are saying. I have times where I am a bit more extroverted and other times when I’m more introverted. I’ve only traveled alone once but it was only for a couple hours. Thanks for sharing your story like that. Everyone is weird in their own way, but I don’t think it’s weird. It’s who you are and what you prefer. ☺️

  8. I can totally relate to what you’ve written here. When I was young I didn’t like being called an introvert either but as I’ve grown older, I’ve realised, that’s exactly who I am. I love my ‘me’ time, I can be very social at times but then there are days when I’m locked inside, don’t want to talk to people and just BE. I love my own company!

    1. I believe those days are the days we need to recharge so we can be social. Sitting in my own company is comforting but I don’t care to spend too much time alone. Thank you for sharing your story! I’m glad you can relate! 🙂

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